There’s this myth about black Fathers, one that’s very pervasive.
There’s this wild myth that black fathers don’t show up for their children. And we’re here to tell you that that’s simply not true.Tweet
One of the reasons this myth exists is because of the data being compiled and interpreted by places like the Census and NCES. The numbers mainly focus on whether or not parents are married and who the custodial parent is. With these statistics you will find over and over again that primarily mothers have custody of their children. You will also see that our community has the lowest marriage rate.
These numbers do not reflect the information that matters most. Despite not being married and despite not having sole custody, numbers show that around 60% of black fathers do live with their children. Another chunk of our men despite additionally not living in the same home as their children engage in shared parenting.
Let’s look at another interesting statistic. This one is from the CDC. It helps fill in more of the gaps important for debunking the myths. Black fathers are more likely to be an integral part of their children’s day. They’re more likely to prepare meals and share them with the children, to bathe, diaper and dress their children and to read to them than white fathers. They’re just as likely to play with them.
I came across this article on Fatherly’s website published last year about a certain black father’s realization. In it he detailed how an older white woman approached him while he was in a line with daughter and mentioned to him that she doesn’t see black fathers often and final line was, “No matter what happens, I hope you stay involved in her life.”
As you may imagine, especially if you’re a black father reading this, that interaction shook him ! So much so that he decided to make an instagram page showcasing fatherhood as a whole. His goal is to show and prove that all dads are created equal and involvement doesn’t depend on race.
Are you a black father or someone who was raised by their black father ? We’d love to read your experience ! Feel free to share with us in the comments.